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What is erotic hypnosis and why do some people find it hot?

While you’ve probably seen hypnosis arise as a plot device in various films and TV shows – like Get Out, The Jungle Book, and Scooby-Doo, just to name a few – you may not have known that there’s also a significant contingent of kinksters who like to use hypnosis for pleasure and connection. Isn’t human sexuality fascinating?

Whether or not a person happens to fetishize hypnosis itself, it’s a tool that can be used to produce many different possible results. It can:

  • Create specific headspaces, like submissiveness or arousal
  • Intensify sensations, such as pleasure or pain
  • Make roleplays feel much more real
  • Create sensations that aren’t there, such as the feeling of being tied down
  • Foster deep relaxation
  • Induce hands-free orgasms
  • …and much more!

What does trance feel like?

The American Psychological Association describes trance as “an altered state of consciousness characterized by decreased awareness of and responsiveness to stimuli and an apparent loss of voluntary power.” However, some practitioners describe trance as being more like a state of heightened focus, where their attention narrows to a single point – often a partner’s voice, or a visual aid like a spinning spiral – to the exclusion of all other stimuli.

This hyperfocused state can feel heavy and slow, like how your thoughts seem to progress at a snail’s pace when you’re profoundly exhausted. It can also feel somewhat dissociative, as if you’re floating somewhere outside of your body. However, trance feels different from person to person, so when experimenting with hypnokink for the first time, it’s best to be open to whatever you might feel, rather than expecting a particular outcome.

How can hypnosis be done ethically?

Contrary to popular belief, hypnosis isn’t mind control. While it can make you likelier to agree to do things you wouldn’t otherwise do, so can many other kinky activities, like bondage, submission, and pain play. The important thing, as always, is to play only with people you trust, to establish good communication protocols beforehand (like safewords and mid-scene check-ins), and to pre-negotiate anything you plan on doing, so that everyone involved is able to give fully informed consent.

Any good and ethical hypnotist will make sure that their subject can come out of trance when and if they want to. This might be achieved by pre-establishing a safeword that should be easy for the subject to say even while in trance (such as “red”) and/or by planting the suggestion during hypnosis that the subject can easily emerge from trance whenever they like.

As with all risky kinks, it’s also a good idea to discuss any hypnokink scene after the fact – whether immediately afterward or a day or two later – so both/all partners can air any concerns they may have had about what went on.

How does one learn to do erotic hypnosis?

Mark Wiseman’s book Mind Play is a good introduction to the skills, ethics, and activities involved in erotic hypnosis. You can practice with a partner, or with other hypnokinksters who you meet through online communities. Some people also learn hypnosis techniques by listening to plenty of erotic hypnosis files, which are offered by content creators on many platforms such as Niteflirt and Reddit.

For hypnokinksters who’ve already mastered the basics and want to dive deeper into the “darker” side of hypnosis, a long-time hypnokinkster who goes by Sleepingirl wrote a guide called The Brainwashing Book which weaves hypnosis together with concepts such as classical and operant conditioning. Along with their submissive CCKitten, Sleepingirl also cohosts a podcast called Two Hyp Chicks which discusses many niche concepts related to hypnosis, kink, and the interactions thereof.

Have you ever considered exploring erotic hypnosis?


Kate Sloan is a journalist, blogger, podcaster, and educator who has been writing about sex online and in print for over five years. She writes about sex, kink, relationships, fashion, beauty, writing, and mental health. She has been voted a Sex Blogging Superhero for four years running, and her words reach over 22,000 sex nerds, weirdos and queerdos every month. As a journalist and essayist, Kate has written for Glamour, Teen Vogue, Daily Xtra, the Establishment, Maisonneuve, Herizons, the Plaid Zebra, xoJane, and more.

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