Coming Clean to your Partner

Coming Clean to your Partner

It shouldn’t surprise anyone that most people aren’t all up for the kinky lifestyle and the wonderful benefits that come with it. Whether certain ideological, geographical, religious reasons or, even, plainly the lack of desire towards the things associated with the pervert’s lifestyle are what hinder most people from taking up or trying out something sexually invigorating or, otherwise, new, it doesn’t exactly matter. You can’t – more so that you shouldn’t – make someone try something, let alone something sexual, without their utmost consent. 

What you can do, though, is utilize the power of suggestion and plant a small seed in their mind that will later blossom into a willow of kinks. We’ve said before that you can buy them a book about erotic pleasures, watch a movie together that conveys how beautiful the lives of the average kinksters are, ask them to try something new that isn’t too overwhelming for a starting point, etc.
What we haven’t said is that honesty is the best policy. Chances are that your partner isn’t going to go so far as to end the relationship – though this isn’t completely out of the question – just because you like being asphyxiated for reasons of erotic pleasuring or like having your particular great down-under explored. 

Here are some pillow thoughts that have crossed our minds once or twice:

If you’re in a supportive, as opposed to a toxic, relationship, this supposes that the support ought to come from both sides. Now, if your partner is supportive of most things, it wouldn’t be a stretch that they would indulge most, if not all, sexual wishes that you harbor.
Now what happens if and when it does occur, you get what you want, but it’s only for one time. It didn’t quite hit homerun for their fancies, and now you’re left wanting more and more?

Friends, we’re doubtless that you’ve heard of hedonism and what it means, but for the true kinkster – not to call upon any sort of ideology with this whole ‘true’ shtick – this worldview is the culmination of all their wants and inhibitions. Hedonism is defined by Google as the pursuit of pleasure; sensual self-indulgence. Now, if you’ve gotten to a point in any liaison where pleasure has been taken out so severely, for you in the sexual sense, that you’re left dissatisfied and constantly longing for proper, kinky delight, then forgoing the whole sham wouldn’t be the wrong thing to do.

A common thing that may arise in anyone’s mind at this point is cheating. Since you love being with person A, but they won’t satisfy you like you need to be, you want to have person B who will satisfy you promptly. But, this can and, as a general rule, will end up hurting you more than just ending the whole thing, if you so decide.

There are plenty of coevals out there with whom you could fulfill these fantasies, and if that’s the only way for you to get your satisfaction, it’s probably the right thing to do.

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